10-10-10 is a special day.. i mean that it only happen once in your lifetime right?? but today i do nothing special to celebrate this special day, so then i decide to write something on my blog， since it was really long time i haven't written anything.
so i'm gonna tell you about DBC concert that happened almost 1 month ago. What is DBC concert? It is a concert which was held by Don Bosco Community (DBC) in my university. And Don Bosco Community is a catholic community that provide a "family" in our faculty, there are brothers and sisters - hood inside it. And every year, they held a concert. The perfomers were my own friends , so then i deciced to watch the show.
The story is about a young man who lost his parents, while they were on a trip with ship. So that the young man decided to look out his parents.On the journey, the young man met a nice-funny-young girl, that the young girl wanted to help the young man. So then, they went on the journey together. Bla bla bla and bla, in the end, they fell in love la...
and i think that it was quite good show and quite entertaining... i cant speak much, just enjoy the photos!
These days, i haven't blogged about anything right? yeah, it is because i am so busy with my life. I need to focus on my surrounding first before i can do something else. sorry if i dont blog any more in few months ... but keep checking my blog.. ok??
i hope i blog ASAP... have a nice day for u all ... ^.^x*cross finger*
You have to read this! this story is hearth-touched!!
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6.
You know that i just bought my new SLR Camera, right? So some days ago i made my dog as an object for my photoshoot ... LOL.. the other reason is that my dog is already old loh, and i seldom took pics of him.. then i decided to take pic of him...
one thing that made this photoshoot was hard was my dog never saw straight to the camera, he always looked the other side. I dunno that he didnt like or he acted cool (like a hot model... LOL).... so it was so hard to make him look at the camera.. I tried to distract him, for example like calling him, making sound, or something else, but it was so hard loh... LOL..
Last Saturday , July 3rd 2010, i bought my camera SLR. You know how much i really want a camera SLR. Already a long time i saved my money for this thing. And right now, it is already on my hand.. love it so much!!
in the evening of that day, my friends asked me to hang out in PI. I agreed and of course brought my new camera... eventhough i still didnt know how to operate it. Even i brought my manual book for the camera..LOL.. so these are the pics that i took that day : enjoy!
Today, my mom asked me to clean storage room and threw away things i didnt need anymore such as highschool's text books.
I had already kept it for more than 1 year since my graduation. All of my highschool's textbook, from grade 10 till grade 12, i kept it safe and clean in the storage. And this was the right time to throw away as i dont need them anymore.
but when i saw them, suddenly i felt a little bit sad. I didnt know why, however, i remembered my highschool's time. The time i used my books in school and i hated it so much...
i looked each one of them and found a lot of notes in the book, and it made me sadder to throw away the books....
actually, almost all my books were in good condition even some of them were untouched ... and i wanted to donate it to someone. but i didnt know where to donate it... i wish i could donate it to someone that is really need and will use it... i feel sad, that i threw away the book that i bought but never used it even opened it..
farewell my books... i love them so much somehow, even i dont want to read it...
wohooooo it has been ages i havent written anything on my blog... since i was so busy with my college study and my life either...
so how's life??
right now i am in my holiday. I just finished my last test yesterday, and about the grade.. hmmph i dont care lah.. the most important thing for me now is enjoying holiday which is so precious for me.. ^^
hmm.. yesterday after i finished my test, me and my friends went for nail art near our campus.. the price for nail art there wasnt expensive and the result wasnt really bad at all.. but i hate that i had nail art when my nail was so short... usually i have long nail.. but i had to cut it all because of my practical test... huhu.. if my nail were long, the nail art would be much much nice on it... huhuhu...
here's the result...
i have my holiday for almost 2 months and i will be stuck at home only.. no vacation for me (only)... my bro and my dad maybe will go to China and my mom is visiting my sis at SG.. and they leave me at home because of many reasons that i shouldnt have my vacation at this holiday.. i will be lumutan at home alone and doing the same thing this holiday..
Oh, also my boyfriend leave me for having vacation in USA for 3 weeks and i cant celebrate his birthday because he is in USA... and some of my friends are going for vacation either abroad or outside town... and leave me alone in jakarta... huff... and that's why, i already stock a lot of DVDs at home so that i can watch all day long loh... and i will help my mom doing something either helping her work or doing chore...
but i will really enjoy my holiday, because there is no study or test again until 3months later.. hahaha... :pand i dont know when i am going to write another post in this blog.. but i will change my blog's lay out in no time... hehehe.. keep watching my blog!
10-10-10 is a special day.. i mean that it only happen once in your lifetime right?? but today i do nothing special to celebrate this special day, so then i decide to write something on my blog， since it was really long time i haven't written anything.
so i'm gonna tell you about DBC concert that happened almost 1 month ago. What is DBC concert? It is a concert which was held by Don Bosco Community (DBC) in my university. And Don Bosco Community is a catholic community that provide a "family" in our faculty, there are brothers and sisters - hood inside it. And every year, they held a concert. The perfomers were my own friends , so then i deciced to watch the show.
The story is about a young man who lost his parents, while they were on a trip with ship. So that the young man decided to look out his parents.On the journey, the young man met a nice-funny-young girl, that the young girl wanted to help the young man. So then, they went on the journey together. Bla bla bla and bla, in the end, they fell in love la...
and i think that it was quite good show and quite entertaining... i cant speak much, just enjoy the photos!
These days, i haven't blogged about anything right? yeah, it is because i am so busy with my life. I need to focus on my surrounding first before i can do something else. sorry if i dont blog any more in few months ... but keep checking my blog.. ok??
i hope i blog ASAP... have a nice day for u all ... ^.^x*cross finger*
You have to read this! this story is hearth-touched!!
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6.
You know that i just bought my new SLR Camera, right? So some days ago i made my dog as an object for my photoshoot ... LOL.. the other reason is that my dog is already old loh, and i seldom took pics of him.. then i decided to take pic of him...
one thing that made this photoshoot was hard was my dog never saw straight to the camera, he always looked the other side. I dunno that he didnt like or he acted cool (like a hot model... LOL).... so it was so hard to make him look at the camera.. I tried to distract him, for example like calling him, making sound, or something else, but it was so hard loh... LOL..
Last Saturday , July 3rd 2010, i bought my camera SLR. You know how much i really want a camera SLR. Already a long time i saved my money for this thing. And right now, it is already on my hand.. love it so much!!
in the evening of that day, my friends asked me to hang out in PI. I agreed and of course brought my new camera... eventhough i still didnt know how to operate it. Even i brought my manual book for the camera..LOL.. so these are the pics that i took that day : enjoy!
Today, my mom asked me to clean storage room and threw away things i didnt need anymore such as highschool's text books.
I had already kept it for more than 1 year since my graduation. All of my highschool's textbook, from grade 10 till grade 12, i kept it safe and clean in the storage. And this was the right time to throw away as i dont need them anymore.
but when i saw them, suddenly i felt a little bit sad. I didnt know why, however, i remembered my highschool's time. The time i used my books in school and i hated it so much...
i looked each one of them and found a lot of notes in the book, and it made me sadder to throw away the books....
actually, almost all my books were in good condition even some of them were untouched ... and i wanted to donate it to someone. but i didnt know where to donate it... i wish i could donate it to someone that is really need and will use it... i feel sad, that i threw away the book that i bought but never used it even opened it..
farewell my books... i love them so much somehow, even i dont want to read it...
wohooooo it has been ages i havent written anything on my blog... since i was so busy with my college study and my life either...
so how's life??
right now i am in my holiday. I just finished my last test yesterday, and about the grade.. hmmph i dont care lah.. the most important thing for me now is enjoying holiday which is so precious for me.. ^^
hmm.. yesterday after i finished my test, me and my friends went for nail art near our campus.. the price for nail art there wasnt expensive and the result wasnt really bad at all.. but i hate that i had nail art when my nail was so short... usually i have long nail.. but i had to cut it all because of my practical test... huhu.. if my nail were long, the nail art would be much much nice on it... huhuhu...
here's the result...
i have my holiday for almost 2 months and i will be stuck at home only.. no vacation for me (only)... my bro and my dad maybe will go to China and my mom is visiting my sis at SG.. and they leave me at home because of many reasons that i shouldnt have my vacation at this holiday.. i will be lumutan at home alone and doing the same thing this holiday..
Oh, also my boyfriend leave me for having vacation in USA for 3 weeks and i cant celebrate his birthday because he is in USA... and some of my friends are going for vacation either abroad or outside town... and leave me alone in jakarta... huff... and that's why, i already stock a lot of DVDs at home so that i can watch all day long loh... and i will help my mom doing something either helping her work or doing chore...
but i will really enjoy my holiday, because there is no study or test again until 3months later.. hahaha... :pand i dont know when i am going to write another post in this blog.. but i will change my blog's lay out in no time... hehehe.. keep watching my blog!
This is the official blog of Helen Halim. What i had written in here, all were based on my life and my opinion. I just wrote it depend on my mood.
Hope u enjoy it. If anything wrong, please contact me. Don't forget your comment. And sorry for everything that I had written that may hurt u.. Enjoy! and PEACE!!
ProFile.. ♥
♪I'm just an ordinary girl who like to write a blog or diary
♪ I Love Scandalicious scandal
♪ I love eating food
♪ I Love reading n watching
♪ I love Gossiping
♪ I'm still student of Medical Faculty, in Atmajaya University.
♪ I am 18 years old
♪ I love my life and enjoy it so much!!
♪ I'm still looking what the purpose of my life is
♪ I have a lot of love that surrounds me
♪ And I just wanna be ME!
♥Him!
♥Happiness!
♥Going Around the World
♥Camera SLR
♥DVD portable
♥Candle Light Dinner
♥Earn My Own Money
♥Join Organization At University
♥Join Orientation Committee At University
♥Learn to Play Piano
♥Learn Korean Language
♥My Famous Blog
♥SIM
♥New Handphone
♥My New own laptop
♥Lose 2 more kgs
♥Sleeping!!
♥Passing all kind of tests for becoming a doctor
♥All kind of fashion thing in my closet
♥A big closet in my bed room
♥Graduate from Highschool & university
♥Shopping, shopping, and shopping!!
~Hell-O-Lizious♥~ states... 
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